Mark Ebinger, Tom Freeman and Mark “Moke” Coffey are three gay fathers co-raising twins, a feat they document in “Our 3 Dads,” their viral YouTube reality series redefining modern American family life. After garnering nearly 1 billion views across platforms, the show is now in its third season, and the audience continues to grow along with the family.

Ebinger and Freeman are parents of 9-year-old twins Beau and Coy. Beau is Ebinger’s biological daughter and Coy is Freeman’s biological son. Though Ebinger and Freeman divorced in 2019, Freeman lives in the guest house of Ebinger’s West Hollywood home and co-parents the twins alongside Ebinger’s new husband, Moke Coffey. Together, they are a family built on shared responsibility, love and a big dose of humor.

In Season 3, the dads prepare to grow their family once again with their close friend and twins’ surrogate mother, Ashley, while the twins go into the studio to release their first original music project and the family partners with Tailwaggers to help surrendered pets find forever homes.

The three dads recently chatted with me about fatherhood, prioritizing their twins, excitement for the new baby and hopes to normalize LGBTQ+ families by sharing their own.

How has “Our 3 Dads” affected your role as a father?

Ebinger: The show’s made me more aware that the small moments — like school drop-offs and bedtime pandemonium — are actually the story, so I try not to miss them.

Coffey: It’s made me more intentional, whether it’s blending smoothies at 6 a.m. or juggling everything. I know the example we set matters beyond our house.

Freeman: I never imagined that at 72, I’d be packing lunches and doing school runs. I didn’t see that coming, but I love it. 

What does Father’s Day typically look like for you all? 

Ebinger: We usually start with breakfast at home because the kids like to “host,” which really means chaos in the kitchen and a lot of laughs.

Coffey: A pool day is always in the mix — L.A. makes that easy — and the best part is just being together without overplanning it.

Freeman: Last year, I fell asleep mid-Father’s Day and woke up with both kids on top of me watching a movie. That’s pretty much the dream. 

It can be challenging to balance onscreen and offscreen life for family vloggers and influencers. How do you make sure you’re prioritizing the kids — and family time offline?

Ebinger: The kids are our number-one priority and only participate if they want to — some days they’re all in; other days they’re not, and we let that be. 

Coffey: We keep the focus on the dads and the story, and if the twins choose to step in more as they grow, that’s their call. 

Freeman: Sometimes, the best moments happen when the cameras are off anyway, and we’re OK with that.

How excited are you and the twins about baby number 3?

Ebinger: The twins are fully invested. They’ve been helping pick out nursery furniture and debating what the baby should call them.

Coffey: We actually ran a diaper-changing competition with a baby doll to “train” and Tom won, which was not the outcome we expected.

Freeman: I’ve been underestimated. Turns out, I’m the fastest diaper guy in the house!

What has the response been like to the new season?

Coffey: The response has been incredible! People are really leaning into this next chapter with us.

Ebinger: Our followers tell us they appreciate how open we are about our family, and that we always put the kids first. We hear from so many people who grew up going from one home to another with parents who were constantly fighting — and that really resonates with them. For us, it’s always been about creating a home that feels stable, supportive and full of love, no matter what our situation looks like.

With a growing audience, what are your goals for the show?

Ebinger: It’s about visibility for gay and LGBTQ+ families and relatability — showing that our family may look different, but the love, chaos and milestones are universal. We have so many fans come up to us on the street, saying we’ve inspired them to be themselves and that it gives them hope for their own families. If we can continue to accomplish that, we’ll be thrilled. We always say it takes a village, and ours includes everyone who’s followed along with us.

Coffey: We want to keep telling honest stories, whether it’s preparing for baby number 3 or just navigating everyday life as a family. From our surrogate, Ashley, to our extended circle, our family has always been about showing up for each other.

Freeman: If people can watch us argue over something silly and then sit down together 5 minutes later, that feels pretty real to me. It’s not traditional, but it works — and that’s kind of the point.

What’s next for “Our 3 Dads” — and for your family?

Ebinger: We’re excited to keep building. This time next year, it will be “baby, baby, baby.” Before then, we’re going to get some traveling in. Canary Islands, here we come!

Coffey: We’ll be appearing on a new show, “Million Dollar Nannies” [which premieres June 17 on Hulu], and we’re continuing to explore opportunities across digital and TV.

Freeman: As long as I’m still part of the ride — and maybe not climbing as many stairs — I’m happy!

Watch “Our 3 Dads” on YouTube, with new episodes on Thursdays at 9 p.m. PST. Follow the show on Instagram.