Throughout my childhood, summer days were delightfully endless. My sister and I loved to play pretend — doling out scoops of plastic ice cream (though we enjoyed plenty of the real stuff, too) and creating dramatic lives for our Littlest Pet Shops figurines.
When our 30 minutes of allowed daily screen time rolled around, though, I went straight to YouTube — not to indulge in cartoons or tween shows; I was obsessed with parenting videos. I soaked up the content on channels such as WhatsUpMoms, Millenial Moms and Michelle Pearson’s, who posted DIY activities for kids, school lunch ideas and parenting insights or advice. Whether it was a recipe for slime and homemade watercolor or granola bars and fruit popsicles, I would recreate them and enjoy them for myself.
Later, in my more formative years between ages 10 to 12, I began to take the video content to heart in a different way. The mom YouTubers touched on myriad topics — from first periods and forming friendships to challenges within their families and the struggles of parenting. Hearing their candid discussions demystified some of the questions I had about growing up and helped me make sense of the conflicts in my own family while holding compassion for them.
Of course, my parents were always open to sharing advice and quick to insert suggestions of their own, too. And yet, gaining insights about issues I was hesitant to broach with them became a form of guidance I didn’t know I needed. With the quick act of a search and a click, I could access advice about the very things I was too ashamed to bring up to the people closest to me.
As someone who wants (or attempts) to be everything for everyone, I remind myself how comforting and refreshing it was to gain the wisdom of those outside my inner circle. It was only then that I could view my stressors through a broader perspective and reapproach them with the people in my life. When I would skim the comments of those YouTube videos, I’d come to realize I was one of many young viewers. In retrospect, this doesn’t surprise me in the slightest. No matter our age, we’re all longing to be seen — and deeply understood.
No matter how present one’s parents are, children and teens can still find refuge in relating to nurturing, guiding figures outside of their family. In many ways, this takes the pressure off. Surrendering to the impossibility of being everything allows us to make space for new ideas and perspectives that we can’t always deliver on our own.
After years of loyalty to several mom blogs/YouTube channels, it feels full circle that I spent the greater half of this year contributing to a parenting magazine and website I likely would have frequented as a child. I truly felt connected to and inspired by those moms and the community they established. As my internship at L.A. Parent concludes, it is my hope that you continue to feel a sense of oneness as a reader (and participant) in this community, too.
Emily Ip is an editorial intern at L.A. Parent and a rising sophomore in college.
